In the Jewish tradition one does not bury the dead with a headstone. That event happens later and is called the “unveiling.”
We celebrated my father’s life at his unveiling on June 22. We read some prayers and sang some songs. I think it would have made him happy.
Sophia, whom will only remember her Grandpa Allen through our memories, was very sweet during our short ceremony and we were all touched when she sat down on her Grandpa’s headstone.
What follows are the prayers and songs we sang as we celebrated my father’s life.
Allen Charles Yudell, February 24, 1939-February 21, 2007
We Are Loved By An Unending Love
By Rabbi Rami Shapiro
We are loved by an unending love.
We are embraced by arms that find us even when we are hidden from ourselves.
We are touched by fingers that soothe us even when we are too proud for soothing.
We are counseled by voices that guide us even when we are too embittered to hear.
We are loved by an unending love.
We are supported by hands that uplift us even in the midst of a fall.
We are urged on by eyes that meet us even when we are too weak for meeting.
We are loved by an unending love.
Embraced, touched, soothed, and counseled,
Ours are the arms, the fingers, the voices;
Ours are the hands, the eyes, the smiles;
We are loved by an unending love.
Psalm 121
I will lift up mine eyes unto the mountains;
From whence shall my help come?
My help cometh from the Lord, Who made heaven and earth.
He will not suffer thy foot be moved;
He that keepeth thee will not slumber.
Behold, He that keepeth Israel Doth neither slumber nor sleep.
The Lord is thy keeper;
The Lord is thy shade upon thy right hand.
The sun shall not smite thee by day, Nor the moon by night.
The Lord shall keep thee from all evil;
He shall keep thy soul.
The Lord shall guard thy going out and thy coming in,
From this time forth and forever.
EL MOLEY RACHAMIM
El malay rachamim shochen bamiromim,
Hamtzey menucha nechona tachas kanfey hashechina,
B’ maalos kedoshim ut’ horim kezohar harakeea
mazhirim es nishma Chiam Guttman.
Shehalach 1’olamo
Ba’voor shenadvoo tzedaka b’ad
hazkaras nishmaso
b’ gan eden t’ hay m’ noochaso
lachen baal harachamim
yastirayhoo b’seser kna fav 1’olamim
v’ytzror bitzror hachayim es nishmaso
Adonoy hoo nachalaso, v’yanooach
b’shalom al mishkavo, v’nomar
ah’main.
EL MOLEH RACHAMIM
O, God, full of compassion, grant perfect rest beneath the shelter of Thy divine presence among the holy and pure who shine as the brightness of the firmament to the soul of our beloved who has gone to his eternal home.
Mayest Thou, O God of Mercy, shelter him forever under the wings of Thy presence, May his soul be bound up in the bond of life eternal, and grant that the memories of my life inspire me always to noble and consecrated living. Amen.
Unveiling the Headstone
In memory of Allen Yudell, we establish and consecrate this monument.
It is a token of our deep love and respect.
He is remembered now, and forever, part of the good in each of us.
May his soul be bound up in the bonds of life.
Prayer on Unveiling Markers or Monuments
The body has died; the spirit it housed will never die. On earth our dear ones do live on through those of us to whom they were so very precious.
(The covering is removed)
We now fondly dedicate this memorial to the blessed memory of Allen Yudell realizing that his remains lie not only in this plot of ground but in every heart his life did touch.
O G-d, we are grateful for the years we were privileged to share with him -years when he brought us so many pleasures and taught us so very much by example.
And even thought he has left our midst, we know he will never leave our hearts where his memory will endure as a blessing forever.
Mourner’s Kaddish
Yit’gadal v’yit’kadash sh’mei raba (Cong: Amein).
May G-d’s great Name grow exalted and sanctified (`Cong: Amen.)
b’al’ma di v’ra khir’utei
in the world that G-d created as She willed.
v’yam’likh mal’khutei b’chayeikhon uv’yomeikhon
May She give reign to Her kingship in your lifetimes and in your days,
uv’chayei d’khol beit yis’ra’eil
and in the lifetimes of the entire Family of Israel,
ba’agala uviz’man kariv v’im’ru:
swiftly and soon. Now say:
(Mourners and Congregation:)
Amein. Y’hei sh’mei raba m’varakh l’alam ul’al’mei al’maya
(Amen. May G-d’s great Name be blessed forever and ever.)
Yit’barakh v’yish’tabach v’yit’pa’ar v’yit’romam v’yit’nasei
Blessed, praised, glorified, exalted, extolled,
v’yit’hadar v’yit’aleh v’yit’halal sh’mei d’kud’sha
mighty, upraised, and lauded be the Name of the Holy One
(Mourners and Congregation:)
B’rikh hu.
Blessed is She.
l’eila min kol bir’khata v’shirara
beyond any blessing and song,
toosh’b’chatah v’nechematah, da’ameeran b’al’mah, v’eemru:
praise and consolation that are uttered in the world. Now say:
(Mourners and Congregation:)
Amein
Amen
Y’hei sh’lama raba min sh’maya
May there be abundant peace from Heaven
v’chayim aleinu v’al kol yis’ra’eil v’im’ru
and life upon us and upon all Israel. Now say:
(Mourners and Congregation:)
Amein
Amen
Oseh shalom bim’romav hu ya’aseh shalom
G-d Who makes peace in Her heights, may She make peace,
aleinu v’al kol Yis’ra’eil v’im’ru
upon us and upon all Israel. Now say:
(Mourners and Congregation:)
Amein
Amen
“A House With Love In It”
By Nat King Cole
A house with love in it is rich indeed
although there are a thousand things that house may need
The carpet may be old, the room so plain and bare
and yet it’s beautiful somehow when love is living there
A house with love in it just seems to bloom
as though the month of may were filling every room
So darling true the years with all my heart I’ll pray
a house with love in it is where we’ll stay
So darling true the years with all my heart I’ll pray
a house with love in it is where we’ll stay.
“Nature Boy”
By Nat King Cole
There was a boy
A very strange enchanted boy
They say he wandered very far, very far
Over land and sea
A little shy and sad of eye
But very wise was he
And then one day
A magic day he passed my way
And while we spoke of many things
Fools and kings
This he said to me
“the greatest thing you’ll ever learn
Is just to love and be loved in return”
“Keep Me In Your Heart”
By Warren Zevon & Jorge Calderon
Shadows are falling and I’m running out of breath
Keep me in your heart for awhile
If I leave you it doesn’t mean I love you any less
Keep me in your heart for awhile
When you get up in the morning and you see that crazy sun
Keep me in your heart for awhile
There’s a train leaving nightly called when all is said and done
Keep me in your heart for awhile
Sha-la-la-la-la-la-la-li-li-lo
Keep me in your heart for awhile
Sha-la-la-la-la-la-la-li-li-lo
Keep me in your heart for awhile
Sometimes when you’re doing simple things
around the house
Maybe you’ll think of me and smile
You know I’m tied to you like the buttons on
your blouse
Keep me in your heart for awhile
Hold me in your thoughts, take me to your dreams
Touch me as I fall into view
When the winter comes keep the fires lit
And I will be right next to you
Engine driver’s headed north to Pleasant Stream
Keep me in your heart for awhile
These wheels keep turning but they’re running out
of steam
Keep me in your heart for awhile
Sha-la-la-la-la-la-la-li-li-lo
Keep me in your heart for awhile
Sha-la-la-la-la-la-la-li-li-lo
Keep me in your heart for awhile
Keep me in your heart for awhile
Bald Mike's Blog 
Lovely tribute Michael. Linda Phillips
LikeLike
Do you need a professional domestic cleaning solution?We will do your construction cleanup.[url=http://www.cleanerlondon.com/commercial-party-cleaning.php]After Party Cleaning[/url]
LikeLike
I just discovered [url=http://bit.ly/bMGrYw]SatelliteTV[/url] on my PC! Ultra cheap at only $50 once off to get the software and an account on the Internet. I get more channels(in HD I might ad) than I get on cable so tomorrow I reckon I'm going to cancel my cable subscription. Thought I'd share this with you guys, worth to check out.
LikeLike
Enjoying reading the posts here, thanks[url=http://www.brotherhood2.com/mypants/profile.php?id=69642].[/url]
LikeLike
[url=http://linkinpark.com/profile/BuyFlagyl]Buy Flagyl[/url] 3, 4, 5, 6, aerosol particles considered in this study (0.5 ~ 2.5 µm) may be categorized into two size groups: submicron-sized particles (0.5 < DP <= 1 µm) and micron-sized particles (1 < DP < 2.5 µm). [url=http://forums.buddytv.com/members/buylasix.html]Buy Lasix[/url] It should be noted that the presence (or absence) of alveolar recirculation is paramount in understanding the behavior of fine-sized particles in the alveolus, because introduction of a small phase lag can make the alveolar flow chaotic (8, 27). [url=http://community.momlogic.com/profile/BuyLevitra]Buy Levitra[/url]
LikeLike
Greets everyone!Watch latest movies for free:http://www.freemoviez.bizIt is a very big movie siteArrivederci[URL=”http://www.freemoviez.biz”][IMG]http://static.thepiratebay.org/img/firefox-22.png[/IMG][/URL]
LikeLike
[url=http://www.penisenlargementv.com]Penis Enhancement[/url][url=http://www.penisenlargementv.com/vigr-plus.html][/url][url=http://www.penisenlargementv.com]penis enlargement pills[/url][url=http://www.penisenlargementv.com]natural penis enlargement[/url]
LikeLike
Once upon a time air travel was a great deal simpler than it is today. You called one of a few airlines that flew from your airport, the agent would tell you what flights were available for a given time, and you booked the one you wanted. Airports were always bustling places, especially during the holidays, but as long as you gave yourself adequate time, the process was usually the same. You would check your bags, go through the x-ray machine, get your boarding pass, and wait patiently at the appropriate gate. Once you got on the plane you ate the snack or meal that came with your flight and watched a movie.In recent years travel by plane has become significantly more complicated. There are so many different configurations for flights and types of fares. Dire economic circumstances have caused airlines to raise rates and charge extra fees for everything from baggage to blankets. There are complex rules about what you can and cannot carry in your luggage. It can be very difficult to determine whether you are getting the best deal or the best services when you buy an airline ticket. The internet makes the navigation of airlines, airports, and flight itineraries easier, but, even so, be prepared to do some research if you want to find a flight at the best price.Here is something up front that might save you time and money right off the bat. If you are traveling within the United States mainland, always look at Southwest Airlines first. Southwest is almost always the best deal you will find. However, Southwest itineraries do not appear on the major travel websites, so always go directly to the airline's website for information. Plug in your travel plans, and you will get a list of all the flights that are available. Southwest typically charges more reasonable prices than other airlines, and there are no hidden fees. The price you see is the price you get although tax and the government fee that is attached to all flights does apply. For lower prices than you can probably get anywhere else look at the “web only” fares, but keep in mind that these fares are not refundable. [url=http://airticketstipsandtricks.blogspot.com]Tips and tricks for cheap air tickets[/url]
LikeLike
kredyt pozyczka kredyt bez bik podatek dochodowyhttp://studencki-kredyt.pl/kredytn/ http://studencki-kredyt.pl/kredyto/mapa.html http://studencki-kredyt.pl/kredytp/ http://studencki-kredyt.pl/kredytr/mapa.html http://studencki-kredyt.pl/kredyts/ http://studencki-kredyt.pl/kredytt/mapa.html cialis http://studencki-kredyt.pl/akcje/mapa.html http://studencki-kredyt.pl/inwestycje/mapa.html http://studencki-kredyt.pl/karta-kredytowa/mapa.html http://studencki-kredyt.pl/lokata/mapa.html http://studencki-kredyt.pl/notowania/mapa.html http://studencki-kredyt.pl/oprocentowanie/mapa.html http://studencki-kredyt.pl/pozyczka/mapa.html
LikeLike
check out the new free [url=http://www.casinolasvegass.com]online casino games[/url] at the all new http://www.casinolasvegass.com, the most trusted [url=http://www.casinolasvegass.com]online casinos[/url] on the web! enjoy our [url=http://www.casinolasvegass.com/download.html]free casino software download[/url] and win money. you can also check other [url=http://sites.google.com/site/onlinecasinogames2010/]online casinos[/url] and [url=http://www.bayareacorkboard.com/]poker room[/url] at this [url=http://www.buy-cheap-computers.info/]casino[/url] sites with 100's of [url=http://www.place-a-bet.net/]free casino games[/url]. for new gamblers you can visit this [url=http://www.2010-world-cup.info]online casino[/url].
LikeLike
hello great forum lots of lovely people just what i needhopefully this is just what im looking for looks like i have a lot to read.
LikeLike
if you guys exigency to fit [url=http://www.generic4you.com]viagra[/url] online you can do it at http://www.generic4you.com, the most trusted viagra drugstore with a panorama generic drugs.you can descry drugs like [url=http://www.generic4you.com/Sildenafil_Citrate_Viagra-p2.html]viagra[/url], [url=http://www.generic4you.com/Tadalafil-p1.html]cialis[/url], [url=http://www.generic4you.com/VardenafilLevitra-p3.html]levitra[/url] and more at http://www.rxpillsmd.net, the chief [url=http://www.rxpillsmd.net]viagra[/url] the world on the web. well another great [url=http://www.i-buy-viagra.com]viagra[/url] pharmacy you can find at http://www.i-buy-viagra.com
LikeLike
You should visit [url=http://www.lindsaycam.com]www.LindsayCam.com[/url] if you want to enjoy the best erotic cams.
LikeLike
What's upIt is my first post here wanted to say hiCheerio
LikeLike
Instantly translate entire web pages, blogs or documents in a single click using our miraculous online translation software. Our incredible translator tool supports 75 languages including English, Spanish, French, Korean, Japanese, Hebrew (Yiddish), Swedish, Dutch, German, Italian, Croation, Chinese (Simplified), Chinese (Traditional), Portugese, Russian, Serbian, Turkish and more! It also comes loaded with a leading dictionary, spelling and definition package. Use our simple and intuitive translation software to translate words, webpages or document formats such as Word, PDF and text. Download our amazing translation software for free and start translating now!You can download it here:[URL=http://fishbabel.notlong.com]Babel Fish[/URL]
LikeLike
Greets dudes!I just wanted to say hi 🙂
LikeLike
Hello guys, What online fanzines do you read and would recommend?For all you rockabilly people out there I recommend The Enough Fanzine. It is one of the first emo ezines on the internet.They have throusands of interviews from the most underground bands all over the world. Check them out online: [url=http://www.enoughfanzine.com]Enough Fanzine[/url]. Best of it all, they are 100% non-profit and just helping the scene!Looking forward to your recommendations.Regards!
LikeLike
Predilection casinos? authenticate this untested [url=http://www.realcazinoz.com]online casinos[/url] counsel and postpone online casino games like slots, blackjack, roulette, baccarat and more at http://www.realcazinoz.com .you can also scrutinize our untrained [url=http://freecasinogames2010.webs.com]casino[/url] shun at http://freecasinogames2010.webs.com and overpower factual folding spondulix ! another show-off [url=http://www.ttittancasino.com]casino spiele[/url] place is http://www.ttittancasino.com , pro german gamblers, slip in unrestrained online casino bonus.
LikeLike
Hello1gbps connection, 10 terabyte bandwidth powerful VPS for only 10.95!http://www.hostomosto.comByebye
LikeLike
bollywood hindi indian raajneeti rajneeti full movie parts full theatrical trailer songs ranbir kapoor katrina kaif ajay devgan nasseruddin shah arjun rampal manoj bajpai teaser eclusive emraan hashmi sajda kajol o mere khuda full video song full video song tu hi haqqeqat milenge milenge action replay akshay kumar teen patti prince it's showtime full video song hot khan sexy bed scene video nude pics hot priyanka chopra pyaar impossible pyar uday chopra part 1. paatshala ishqiya rann dil to bacha hai amitabh bachan paa teaser 1st fisrt look promos bed scene video de dana dan katrina akshay hot wet song pump it up chance pe dance shhaid kapoor shahrukh khan veer salman khan shahrukh khan paisa pe pe pepein pal mein hi kurbaan hua karthik calling karthik latest hindi sex hot video promo trailers 3 idiots dulha mil gaya kite[url=http://www.mydesizone.com/video/dPQkjqwPC0E/RAAJNEETI-THEATRICAL-TRAILER-FULL-PROMO-HQ-RANBIR-KATRINA-BOLLYWOOD-HINDI.html]Raajneeti Watch Online[/url]
LikeLike
wow guys! counter the latest free [url=http://www.casinolasvegass.com]casino[/url] games like roulette and slots !study loophole the all budding deliver [url=http://www.casinolasvegass.com]online casino[/url] games at the all up to the minute http://www.casinolasvegass.com, the most trusted [url=http://www.casinolasvegass.com]online casinos[/url] on the net! profit from our [url=http://www.casinolasvegass.com/download.html]free casino software download[/url] and finish first in money. you can also check other [url=http://sites.google.com/site/onlinecasinogames2010/]online casinos bonus[/url] . check out this new [url=http://www.place-a-bet.net/]online casino[/url].
LikeLike